What if Life is Happening FOR You not TO You?

25 April 2017, 3:09 pm
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I'm sure you have heard the old saying: Life happens for you, not to you.

But have you given any thought to what that actually means to you?

When "bad" things happen to us--battling chronic pain, for example--we tend to catapult ourselves into a downward spiral and assume that life as we know it is over.

But what if we took a different approach? What if we looked for the opportunity rather than focusing on the misfortune?

I recently took some time to reflect on the situations and circumstances throughout my life that, in the moment, I deemed "negative." I was shocked to discover that a LOT of good came out of those situations. Yes, they were painful. Yes, they were ugly. But in the end, I grew, and often times, my life significantly changed for the better because of what I experienced.

Take my chronic pain journey, for example. As a 14 year-old, I was scared to death. I was sure that my life was "over," and I was going to spend the rest of my days relegated to playing the piano (side note: As a 14 year-old I hated playing the piano and the weekly piano lessons that came along with it, so this was not any kind of life I was looking forward to living). I was miserable, and I'm fairly certain I let everyone around me undoubtedly aware of that fact. Truth be told, I was most concerned about the fact that, as an athlete, activities were being taken away from me at a rapid pace. I was hearing things like, "You'll never play football again," "Sit out the next month of your basketball season," and "Swinging a baseball bat isn't recommended, so let's try running track instead."

Even at that young age, images of me as an elderly man appeared in my mind, and let's just say I wasn't picturing myself as the "life of the party." I was certain I'd be rolling through life in a wheelchair in no time at all.

Obviously, looking back on things today, I can tell you a much different story. Hindsight is 20/20, and I certainly have it!

Now, I look back and realize that, if not for my bulging disc, I would have never found The Egoscue Method.

If not for my bulging disc, I would have never owned an Egoscue clinic.

If not for my bulging disc, I would have never had the chance to join the corporate team at Egoscue, Inc.

If not for my bulging disc, I would have never had the opportunity and privilege to impact thousands of lives all over the world.

Wow...what an honor it was for me to have a bulging disc!

I couldn't have thought that way when I was 14...right?


I could have totally changed my perspective and instead of being miserable, considered it an opportunity to learn everything I could about anatomy and physiology. I could taken it as an opportunity to slow down and evaluate my "hectic" 14-year-old schedule. I could have jumped at the chance to become well-versed in photography or some other hobby that I found enjoyable. I could have realized that life was happening for me rather than to me.

Unfortunately, in that moment, I didn't do any of those things. I wallowed in anger and self-pity, and impacted the lives of my friends and family through collateral damage caused by my suffering. My hope is that you don't do what I did. My hope is that you'll reevaluate your current condition and see things a little differently than you have to this point.

So, I'll propose the question to you: Is life happening for you, or is life happening to you? What is your perspective regarding your current life state?

We all have a choice. We can all change our perspective. We can all change our mindset.

If you don't believe me, check out this quick 4-minute video from Tony Robbins on living in what he calls a "beautiful state":

So? Are you ready to change your perspective? Not only can it change, but it can change instantly!

QUESTION: Is life happening to you or for you?

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# ROLLON 2017-05-01 09:41

I'm Myriam, I'm living in Paris.
I Was in the event UPW by Anthony Robbins

I'm interesting by the programme and also I wanted to develope this method in France.

Could explain how is possible to become Egoscue trainer ?

Best regards

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# John 2017-05-15 20:14
So glad to hear you went to UPW! What an incredible event!

Email me at , and I'll connect you with our University.

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